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IZIMPANDE ngokwenza: Ukufundisa nokuPhendulisa

Ukwakhiwa ngemfundiso nokuphendulana

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Umbuzo owasindisa

UThemba wayehluleka ekulingweni kwamapornografi futhi. Wayazi ukuthi akufanelekile, wayethandaza, wayethembisa ukuyeka -- futhi wayephinda. Izinyanga zomjikelezo wokuba yedwa. Kwaze kwafika umfundisi wakhe esibindi wabuza emhlanganweni womuntu ngamunye: 'Themba, injani inhlanzeko yakho yezocansi?' Ukuthula kwathatha imizuzwana. Kwabe sekufika izinyembezi. 'Ngiyahlulwa kule mpi ngedwa.' Kusukela lapho, ngokuphendulana kwamasonto onke, umthandazo nangaphandle kokwahlulela, uThemba waqala ukunqoba. Hhayi ngoba waba muhle -- ngoba wayeka ukuba yedwa.

Izinsika ezimbili zokugcina zeZIMPANDE yiFundisa (ukwakha ngeZwi) noPhendulisa (ukuphendulana ngempilo). Ndawonye, ziqinisekisa ukuthi ukufundisa akuhlali kungajulile.

Ukufundisa ngaphandle kokuphendulisa kuba yilwazi ngaphandle kokuguquka. Ukuphendulisa ngaphandle kokufundisa kuba ukuqondisa ngaphandle kwesisekelo. Kokubili ndawonye kukhiqiza: ukucacela ngokufanele (iZwi) + umphakathi okusiza uphile ngokufanele (accountability).

UKUFUNDISA esimweni seQembu Elincane akuyona ukufundisa njengomfundisi. Ukusiza abantu bahlangane neZwi ngendlela ekhiqiza ukuqonda nokusebenzisa.

Umholi ofundisayo:
- Ulungisela isifundo ngaphambili (akaqambi)
- Usebenzisa imibuzo eholela ekutholeni (akanikezi zonke izimpendulo)
- Uxhumanisa iZwi nempilo yangempela (akahlali ecatshangelweni)
- Ulungisa amaphutha emfundiso ngobumnene (akashalazeleli futhi akahlaseli)
- Ukhomba kuKristu njalo (hhayi emibonweni yakhe)

UKUPHENDULISA (accountability) yisimiso seBhayibheli sokuthi sidinga abanye abantu ukunqoba isono. UJakobe uthi vumani izono -- hhayi kumpristi, kodwa omunye komunye. Ukuvuleka emphakathini yindlela yokulwa nesono esifihlakele.

Kusebenza kanjani:
- Kuphakathi -- akuyona umholi ohlolayo; abantu banakekelana.
- Kungokuzithandela -- akekho ophoqwa ukuvuleka. Kodwa isiko lokuvuleka likhuliswa yisibonelo somholi.
- Kuyimfihlo -- okwabelwana ngakho eqenjini kuhlala eqenjini. Ukuphula imfihlo ukukhaphela ukwethembana.
- Kungomusa -- inhloso ayikaze ibe ukulahla. Ukubuyisela (Galathiya 6:1).

Ukwakha isiko lokuphendulana Bonisa

Qala ngomholi -- uma ungavuleki wena, akekho ozovuleka. Yabelana ngezinselelo zakho (ngokuhlakanipha nangokulungela isimo).

Sebenzisa imibuzo ejwayelekile (emhlanganweni womuntu ngamunye noma emaqoqwaneni amabili-mathathu athembekile):
- Isikhathi sakho noNkulunkulu besinjani kuleli sonto?
- Sikhona isono esidinga ukusivuma?
- Umshado/ukujola/ukuba yedwa kunjani?
- Ubethembekile ngemali yakho?
- Kukhona okufihla?

Ungaphenduli ngokumangala -- lapho othile evuma, bonga isibindi. Thandaza naye. Hamba naye. Ungahluleli.

Hlukanisa izinga lokuvuleka:
- EQenjini Elincane: ukwabelana okuvamile, izicelo zomthandazo, ukukhuthazana
- Emaqoqwaneni/ngababili: izilwane ezikhulu, ukuphendulana okukhethekile
- Ubuso nobuso (umfundisi): ukuvuma okujulile, izindawo ezibucayi kakhulu

Qaphela: ukuphendulana akuyona indawo yokuvuma ephoqiwe. Yisiko lokwethembana elakhiwe ngesikhathi nangokuphepha. Ungaphoqi -- khulisa.

Insimbi icija insimbi -- kodwa kuvela inhlansi. Ukuphendulana akuhlale kukhululekile. Ngezinye izikhathi kubuhlungu ukuzwa iqiniso. Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukubuza. Kodwa umphumela: izinkemba ezicijile kakhulu, amaKristu aqinile kakhulu.

Umholi ofundisayo nophendulisayo ukhiqiza abafundi abavuthiwe -- abantu abazi iZwi (ukufundisa) futhi abaphila iZwi (accountability). Okunye ngaphandle kokunye akuphelele. Ndawonye, bakha isisekelo sokuguquka kweqiniso.

“Ukufundisa akuyona inqubo, yindlela yokuphila. Ukuhamba ndawonye, ukuphila ndawonye, ukukhala ndawonye, ukukhula ndawonye.”

Mfu. Sergio Melfior INgqungquthela Yokufundisa Abantu, 2024

Yima ucabange

  1. 1

    Ukhona yini umuntu empilweni yakho okubhuza imibuzo enzima -- futhi uphendula ngobuqotho?

  2. 2

    Sikhona isono noma isilwane osibhekane naso wedwa ngoba unamahloni okuvuleka?

  3. 3

    Uzizwa ulungele ukufundisa iZwi ngendlela elula nesebenzisekayo?

Kuleli sonto

Thatha isinqumo: bona umuntu omethembayo (umfundisi, umngane ovuthiwe, umlingane) bese usungula naye ukuphendulana okujwayelekile. Nquma: nizohlangana kangakanani? Yimiphi imibuzo enizoyibuza? Qala kuleli sonto nengxoxo yokuqala eqotho. Futhi uma ulungiselela ukufundisa eQenjini Elincane, lungisa isifundo sesonto elizayo ngaphambili -- funda umbhalo, yenza imibuzo, thandaza ucele ukuhlakanipha.

Ukuze sivale

“Nkosi, ngikhulule ekuqhosheni okungivimbela ukuvuleka nasebuvilaneni obungivimbela ukulungiselela. Nginike isibindi sokuvula impilo yami kwabanye nokukubuza ngothando ukuthi banjani. Mangifundise ngobuqotho futhi ngiphile ngobuqiniso. Impilo yami mayihambisane namazwi ami. Egameni likaJesu, amen.”

Komfundisi

Inhloso

Ukufundisa umholi ukusiza izifundo zeBhayibheli ezihlanganyeli (hhayi izintshumayelo) nokwakha isiko lokuphendulana -- lapho isono sivunywa ngokuphepha futhi ukubuyisela kuyinhloso.

Imibuzo enzima

  • Kuthiwani uma othile evuma okuthile okubucayi (ukuhlukunyezwa, ubugebengu)? Yamukela ngokujulile, kodwa xhumana nomfundisi. Akuyona yonke into engahlala 'phakathi kwethu'. Ezimweni zengozi (ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane, udlame), kunesibopho esiphoqe ngokomthetho nangokokuziphatha ukubika.
  • Angizizwa ngilungele ukufundisa. Khumbula: ukuhlanganisa kuhlukile kunokushumayela. Awudingi zonke izimpendulo -- udinga imibuzo emihle futhi uvumele iZwi likhulume. Sebenzisa izinsiza ezilungile (njenganle sikosi!) uma kudingeka.
  • Kuthiwani uma umuntu engashintshi ngisho nokuphendulana? Ukushintsha kuthatha isikhathi. Qhubeka uthanda, uthandaza uhambisa. Uma kungekho inqubekela phambili esikhathini eside, hlola nomfundisi uma kudingeka ukungenelela okukhulu.
  • Ukuphendulana akubi ukulawula? Kungaba, uma kwenziwa kabi. Yingakho kuphakathi (hhayi ngokwezigaba), kungokuzithandela (hhayi ngokuphoqwa) futhi kunomusa (hhayi ukwahlulela). Ithoni yenza umehluko wonke.

Amacebiso angokoqobo

  • Zenze eqenjini: buza 'imibuzo yokuphendulana' phakathi kwenu. Bonisa ukuthobeka.
  • Fundisa umehluko phakathi kwemibuzo evulekile (edala ingxoxo) nevaliwe (ekhiqiza yebo/cha) esifundweni seBhayibheli.
  • Phakamisa ukwakhiwa kwamaqoqwana amabili-mathathu okuphendulana ngaphakathi kweQembu Elincane -- amaqoqwana amancane abantu ababili-bathathu bobulili obufanayo abahlangana masonto onke ukuze baphendulane.
  • Gcizelela imfihlo: ngaphandle kwayo, akekho ovulekayo. Ukuphula ukwethembana kumele kubhekwane nakho ngobuqinile.

Okwengeziwe

  • Leitura: Bazalwane, Asikho Izingcweti -- John Piper (isahluko ngokuphendulana)
  • Video: Ukuphendulana ekufundisaneni -- Mfu. Sergio Melfior