Ukukhula · izifundo 9
Ukukhulisa abantwana ekholweni
Ukudlulisa ukholo esizukulwaneni esilandelayo
Wayebukile
UMandla akaze aba nokuzinikela okuhlelelwe nendodana yakhe eneminyaka engu-8. Wayengazi ukuthi kanjani. Kodwa wayethandaza ngaphambi kokudla, efunda iBhayibheli ehlezi esofeni, ethethelela umkakhe uma bexabana ecela uxolo uma ephutha. Ngelinye ilanga, wezwa indodana yakhe ithandaza yodwa ekamelweni: 'Nkulunkulu, ngiyabonga ngobaba wami. Ngifuna ukuba njengaye uma sengikhulile.' UMandla wakhala. Waqonda ukuthi wayengadingi ihlelo eliphelele. Indodana yakhe yayifunda ukholo ngempilo — hhayi ngesifundo.
Ukholo lobuKristu ludluliswa isizukulwane ngesizukulwane — noma lulahleke. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi iningi lentsha eliyeka ukholo alitholwanga yizimpikiswano zabantu abangakholwa — lalahleka emakhaya lapho ukholo lungaphilwa khona.
Ukufundisa abantwana ekholweni akunikezwa omunye. ISikole seSonto siyasiza. Inkonzo yezingane iyasiza. Kodwa iqhawe lokwakhiwa komoya labantwana umndeni. UNkulunkulu wanikela le nkonzo kubazali — futhi akukho uhlelo lwebandla oluthatha indawo yalokho okwenzeka ekhaya.
UMose uveza indlela kaNkulunkulu: ukufundisa okuxubene nokuphila. Akuyikho isifundo samasonto — yingxoxo ekuseni, emotweni, ngesikhathi sokulala. Ukholo ludluliswa ezikhathini zansuku zonke, hhayi ezikhathini ezihlelelwe kuphela.
Kodwa qaphela ukuhlela: kuqala, 'mawabe senhliziyweni yakho'. Awukwazi ukudlulisa okungekho kuwe. Abazali abafuna abantwana abangamaKristu badinga bona ngokwabo ukuba ngabafundi bakaKristu. Ukholo oluzenzisayo alukhohlisi ingane isikhathi eside.
Lesi saga siyisimiso, hhayi isiqinisekiso esingokomshini. Abantwana banenkululeko yokuzikhethela. Kodwa isimiso siyiqiniso: ukutshala okunenhloso ebuntwaneni kwakha izisekelo ezihlalayo.
'Ngendlela eyifanele' — ukufundisa ngokweBhayibheli kunenhloso. Unezinhloso zomoya zabantwana bakho noma ukushiya ethubeni? Uhlobo luni lomuntu omdala ofuna babe yilona? Lowo mbono uqondisa izinqumo zakho namuhla.
Izinqubo zokwakhiwa komoya emndenini Bonisa
Abantwana abancane (0-6 iminyaka):
- Thandaza nabo ngaphambi kokulala nasekudleni
- Xoxa izindaba zeBhayibheli ngendlela elula nejabulisayo
- Hlabelela amaculo obuKristu ndawonye
- Bonisa uNkulunkulu emvelweni: 'Buka lokho uNkulunkulu akwenzile!'
Abantwana abadala (7-12 iminyaka):
- Ukuzinikela komndeni okufushane (imizuzu engu-5-10): funda umbhalo, buza ukuthi baqondeni, thandazani ndawonye
- Phendula imibuzo yabo ngoNkulunkulu ngokuqotho
- Bahambise bayokhonza (ukuvakashela abadingayo, iQembu Elincane, inkonzo)
- Bavumele bakubone ufunda iBhayibheli uthandaza
Intsha (13-17 iminyaka):
- Nika indawo yemibuzo — ukholo olungaphili imibuzo lubuthakathaka
- Baxhume nabadiscipula ngaphandle kwakho (abaholi bentsha, abadiscipulayo)
- Xoxa ngezihloko ezinzima (ubulili, izidakamizwa, ubuntu) ngaphambi kokuba umhlaba uxoxe
- Yiba sobala: xoxa ngezimpi zakho nokuthi uNkulunkulu ukugcinile kanjani
Kuyo yonke iminyaka: isibonelo sakho sikhuluma kakhulu kunamazwi akho. Phila lokho okufundisayo.
UPawulu unika imiyalo emibili: ungathukuthelisi futhi khulisela ekuqondiseni. Ukungathukuthelisi kusho: ungacasuli ngobuzenzisi, ukulindela okungafanele, ukuqhathanisa noma ukuba yingqongqo. Abantwana bayavukela uma abazali bengavumelani noma becindezela.
Ukukhulisela ekuqondiseni nasekulayweni kweNkosi ukuzibusa ngothando — hhayi ukungabi nemikhawulo (lokho ukunganaki) noma ukuqina kakhulu (lokho ubuholoho). Ukulingana komusa neqiniso uJesu akumodelayo.
“Ukufundisa akusikho uhlelo, yindlela yokuphila. Ukuhamba ndawonye, ukuphila ndawonye, ukukhala ndawonye, ukukhula ndawonye.”
Yima ucabange
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Uma abantwana bakho bebefunda ukholo ngesibonelo sakho kuphela (ngaphandle kwamazwi akho), bebefundani?
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Ubenenhloso yini ekwakhiweni komoya kwabantwana bakho noma useshintshelile ebandleni?
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Uma ungenabantwana: obani 'izizukulwane ezilandelayo' ongashala kubo (abashana, abantwana bebandla, abafundi abancane)?
Kuleli sonto
Uma unabantwana: qala ukuzinikela komndeni okulula kuleli sonto — noma kungaba imizuzu emihlanu ngaphambi kokulala. Funda indaba yeBhayibheli, buza umbuzo uthandaze. Uma ungenabantwana: bona ingane noma intsha ongashala kuyo ngomoya (umshana, ingane yeQembu Elincane). Thandazela leso sizukulwane utholakalayo.
Ukuvala
“Baba, ngiyabonga ngabantwana osiphathise bona. Thethelela lapho sehluleke njengabazali nabakhulisi. Sinike ukuhlakanipha ukufundisa, ukubekezela ukuphinda, nokuqondana ukuphila lokho esikufundisayo. Isizukulwane esilandelayo masikwazi — hhayi ngesiko, kodwa ngokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu. Vikela abantwana bethu. Mabakukhonze zonke izinsuku zokuphila kwabo. Egameni likaJesu, amen.”
Komfundisi
Inhloso
Vusa kubazali umthwalo wokuba iqhawe elikhulu lokwakhiwa komoya kwabantwana — ngezinqubo ezilula ezixubene nansuku zonke, ngaphandle kobuholoho noma ukunikezela kwabanye.
Imibuzo enzima
- Ingane yami ikhulile yasuka kuNkulunkulu. Ngehlulekile? Hhayi ngempela. Abantwana banenkululeko yokuzikhethela. Qhubeka uthandaza, uthanda uba yisibonelo. Abaningi bayabuya emva kwesikhathi sokusuka. Ungalahli ithemba — futhi ungathwali icala elingesilo elakho.
- Umlingani wami akakholwa. Ngibafundisa kanjani abantwana ekholweni? Ngokuhlonipha umlingani nangokuqina kwakho. Phila ukholo lwakho ngobuqotho (1 Petru 3:1-2). Ungaphoqi futhi ungadali ingxabano — kodwa ungayeki ukuthandaza, ukufunda iBhayibheli nokuhambisa abantwana ebandleni.
- Ngikuphi ukubhapathiza ingane yami? Uma senokuvuthwa kwesimo sokholo lomuntu siqu — hhayi ukukopela abazali kuphela. Ingane ngayinye ihlukile. Xoxa nomfundisi uqaphele izimpawu zokuqiniseka kweqiniso.
- Ngiliphatha kanjani icindezelo lomhlaba phezu kwabantwana bami? Ungahlukanisi — lungisa. Abantwana badinga izimpendulo zeBhayibheli kumibuzo yomhlaba. Xoxa ngezihloko ezinzima ngaphambi kokuba umhlaba ethule eyakhe indaba. Isiko lokukhulumisana okuvulekile lingcono kunesiko lokuvinjelwa.
Amacebiso angokoqobo
- Lungisa ingxoxo: uma iqembu linabantu abangashadile abaningi noma izithandani ezingenabantwana, nweba kube 'ukwakhiwa kwesizukulwane esilandelayo' — iSikole SeSonto, ukufundisa intsha, omalume bomoya.
- Buza: 'Yini abazali bakho abayenza kahle ekwakhiweni kwakho komoya? Yini abangayenza ngokuhlukile?' Lokhu kudala ukucabanga okusebenzayo.
- Qaphela ngecala: abazali bazizwa benganele kalula. Khuthaza: 'Ongaphelele okhona ungcono kunoqondile ongekho.'
- Phakamisa izinsiza ezisebenzayo: amaBhayibheli ezingane anezithombe, ukuzinikela komndeni (imizuzu emihlanu), amaculo obuKristu emotweni.
Okwengeziwe
- Leitura: Abazali Abaqinile, Abantwana Abaqinile — Mark Batterson (isifinyezo)
- Video: Ukwakhiwa komoya kwabantwana — Mfu. Ed René Kivitz